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Mapping Relational Intelligence

Are You Jumping to Conclusions?

Published 19 days ago • 1 min read

Mapping Relational Intelligence

A guide to navigating intimacy and identity.

Dear Reader,

just a quick message today to invite you to this month's Live Office Hours taking place on Tuesday, March 17th, at 5pm GMT. You can register here: dorisfullgrabe.com/events

The topic this month is separating facts from interpretation, aka slowing down the jump to conclusions. Here's the video, in case you missed it:

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Real talk: I know the office hours are on St. Patrick's Day, so if you can't make it, but still want to put in your question, just hit reply to this email or fill out this anonymous form:

​https://forms.gle/gNjbfZ4vhj9VkMf36

Super real talk: I've signed up for week-long practice redesign sprint and the group is meeting at the same time, sooo... not gonna be mad if nobody signs up for this one. 🫣 Still love you and appreciate you being here!! 🤗

Pattern Disruption FAQ

Last month's topic was about disrupting old patterns in your relationship, and I decided to record some Q&A in the form of short videos. You can view them here:

​Your Label is Lying to You (And you're letting it)​

​You Changed. Your Partner Didn't Notice. Here's What's Actually Happening.​

​Am I disrupting a pattern or manipulating my relationship?​

​What if disrupting the pattern actually breaks the relationship?​

​"I already tried speaking up before, it didn't work. Why would this time be different?"​

​What if you change and your partner is staying exactly the same? ​

PS: I have added a new offering to my coaching suite - Internal Family Systems (IFS)! If you're curious to explore how e.g. people pleaser or highly critical parts are getting in the way of your relationships, you can book a session here. Use code FTO20 for 20% off your first session.

Cheers,

Doris

Mapping Relational Intelligence

by Doris Fuellgrabe, MSc

A guide for navigating the terrain between who you’ve been, who you’re becoming, and how you love along the way.

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