Dear Reader, if you've been reading my notes for a while, you know I have an intellectual crush on Lisa Feldman Barrett and her theory of constructed emotion. (I blogged about the overlaps I see between her, Jung, and Damasio here.) Her latest paper argues that our brain's fundamental operating principle is prediction - and not just for emotions: The brain doesn't perceive the world and then categorize it. It categorizes first, using predictions rooted in somatic processes, and then uses...

Dear Reader, if you think asking for help with your sexual and intimacy issues is hard, you're absolutely right. The average couple waits 7 years to seek any support, and even then it can take months to build up enough trust with your practitioner to start talking about the real stuff. So much of it feels embarrassing, it's extremely vulnerable, and the smallest whiff of misunderstanding can shut things down. You're incredibly brave for considering it, and I mean that sincerely. Here's an...

Dear Reader, I'm running an experiment this year which is basically a course in expanding relational intelligence - for free. I publish a new video on my YouTube channel every month, and then invite you to talk about it (or anything you like regarding Type and relationships) during free office hours. Here's February's video, where we explore how to break free from frustrating relationship patterns by shifting the focus from changing your partner to understanding and disrupting the...