Dear Reader,

What if your Psychological Type was more than a set of predispositions? What if it was a collaborative response, crafted by your psyche in the earliest years, to meet the demands of love and belonging?

This idea has been quietly circling in my mind for some time, and I want to try and wrap my head around it.

Or in other words, how much of my extraverted Feeling behaviors (accommodating, harmonizing, complimenting, encouraging, mediating, diplomacy...) are really just people-pleasing, low self-esteem, or remnants of anxious attachment coping strategies?

Jung has been very clear about how the psyche compensates. If we suppress or reject anything for long enough, it draws energy around itself, building the tangled web of a complex that will burst forth eventually. Either in the form of completely out-of-character behavior, or a full-blown neurosis.

As children, if our environment was emotionally chaotic, we may have dealt with that by leaning into control or logic. If parental love felt conditional, maybe we became attuned, accommodating, always scanning for cues to help us stay in connection. These strategies can shape what we recognize as our Type, because although we are born with predispositions, the environment with which we are met plays an important role in how we get to express those preferences.

This theory has not just been explored by Western depth psychology. Around the world, other systems have pointed to similar truths.

The chakra system, developed over centuries in Indian spiritual and yogic traditions, is a map of consciousness expressed through the body. Each chakra corresponds to an energetic center linked to a core human need: survival, pleasure, power, love, expression, vision, and transcendence. When we experience rupture or unmet needs, these centers can become blocked or over-activated, shaping how we relate to the world. For example, a blocked sacral chakra might lead someone to distrust emotional closeness. An underdeveloped throat chakra might make self-expression feel dangerous. These imbalances don’t just shape behavior, values, and identity, they live in the body.

In case you’re skeptical, a recent meta analysis of various papers found that “chakras may be scientifically delineated, similar to acupuncture points and meridians which have unique electrical properties” https://www.researchgate.net/publication/359774235_Is_there_scientific_evidence_for_chakras).

Similarly, the modern Enneagram, with a symbol that can be traced back Pythagoras, and a system inspired by many religious and philosophical traditions, purports to map the moment when the soul split from the psyche. Or, as they put it, where someone “falls from their essence” into their ego or personality (https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/the-traditional-enneagram/). It captures nine different strategies we adopt in early life to protect ourselves when we feel disconnected from love, safety, or essential worth. Each Enneagram type reflects a unique coping pattern, a way we learned to earn love or reduce harm.

This system gestures toward who you were before you became someone; the essence that probably correlates with what Jung called the Self. (Tangent: It also reminds me of the Tarot card, The Fool. The beginner on a hero’s journey, stepping out of oneness into the world to experience duality and difference, because where they come from, everything is one.)

So, we have many different descriptions, different symbols, different models, from different parts in the world, but they seem to point to the same human story:

Now, what if our cognitive functions are also shaped by this early compensation?

What if the dominance of a certain function (say, introverted Feeling or extraverted Thinking) reflects not just a natural preference, but a protective pattern aligned with a particular attachment wound?

What if that pattern lives not just in our thoughts, but in your energetic body? And not just in the body, but in your soul’s architecture?

When a chakra is blocked, we might over-develop a function to compensate. When the soul splits in the Enneagram, we might form a fixed identity to protect the lost part. And in both cases, Type provides the path to healing. It describes the functions in a tension of opposites, inviting us to balance our psyche, integrate those aspects we learned to suppress, and thus become whole.

So instead of asking, What’s your Type?, we can also ask,

What part of you stepped up to protect the part that didn’t get what it needed?

And then,

What might it look like to come home to the parts that got left behind?

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Here’s a chakra meditation I’ve been enjoying, maybe you find it useful, too.

Find a quiet place to sit or lie down where you won’t be disturbed. You may want a journal nearby for reflection afterward.

Remember to just be with it. You don’t have to fix anything. Simply notice what you notice.

🌈 Guided Chakra Meditation

Begin by closing your eyes. Let your breath slow and deepen. Feel the ground beneath you. Let your body know it is safe to soften.

Now, bring your attention to every chakra starting from the bottom up, and hang out as long as feels good. Give it at least three long breaths in each.

1. ❤️ Root Chakra (Muladhara)

Color: Red | Element: Earth | Theme: Safety & Survival

Visualize a warm red glow at the base of your spine, anchoring you. Send compassion to the part of you that thought it had to stay in control, stay small, or stay still to survive.

2. 🧡 Sacral Chakra (Svadhisthana)

Color: Orange | Element: Water | Theme: Emotion, Pleasure, Relationship

Let an orange light swirl just below your navel. Imagine it melting tension or numbness. Breathe into the places where desire or emotion got suppressed, and just feel.

3. 💛 Solar Plexus (Manipura)

Color: Yellow | Element: Fire | Theme: Will, Autonomy, Identity

Let a radiant yellow sun warm your belly. Picture the part of you that over-functioned to avoid rejection. Thank it. Let it rest.

4. 💚 Heart Chakra (Anahata)

Color: Green | Element: Air | Theme: Love, Connection, Grief

Let green light expand in your chest. Let it touch both the ache and the love. Maybe use an affirmation here, e.g. I am worthy of love and belonging.

5. 💙 Throat Chakra (Vishuddha)

Color: Blue | Element: Sound | Theme: Voice, Truth, Expression

Imagine a soft blue mist at your throat. Feel it clear your voice, your timing, your inner permission to speak your truth.

6. 💜 Third Eye Chakra (Ajna)

Color: Indigo | Element: Light | Theme: Insight, Intuition, Inner Knowing

See a deep indigo light at your forehead. Let it pulse gently, reconnecting you with your intuition, your symbolic sight, your creative imagination.

7. 🤍 Crown Chakra (Sahasrara)

Color: Violet or White | Element: Consciousness | Theme: Unity, Essence, Higher Self

Imagine a violet or white light above your head like a soft halo or a sky opening. Maybe use an affirmation, e.g. I am one.

📝 After the Meditation: Journaling Prompt

Which chakra had the most to say today?

(Below are questions to consider for each, feel free to pick and choose.)

Root: When I was young, what made me feel unsafe? What part of me stepped in to make life more predictable?

Sacral: Was it safe for me to feel what I felt? To want what I wanted? Did I become self-sufficient to avoid feeling too much?

Solar Plexus: Did I learn I had to prove something to be enough? Did I shape a personality around being good, competent, successful, helpful?

Heart: Where did I close my heart to protect it? What did I believe I had to be to stay connected to others?

Throat: When did I learn it was safer to stay quiet? When did I speak to please, not to express truth?

Third Eye: What inner knowing did I push away to fit into the world around me? What insight did I silence to stay safe?

Crown: When did I forget I belonged to something bigger? What core truth about myself did I lose touch with when I had to become someone to be loved?

Optional: Light a candle in the color of the chakra that felt most significant today. Keep it on your desk or altar as a reminder of the energy you’re reintegrating.

Would love to know what came up for you (and your Type)!

Cheers,

PS: Interested in something more tailored to you and your relationship, but not ready for coaching? I'd still love to support you! Here are some resources you might find helpful (links):